Dreaming a Dead Friend-My Unforgettable Lucid Dreaming Experience

One of my most unforgettable lucid dreams was the one in which I was dreaming a dead friend

After the demise of one of my college friends, he was alive in my mind and thoughts for a very long time, but one day I had a lucid dream in which I saw him.

I have had many amazing lucid dreaming experiences, however, I don’t need my lucid dream journal to recall this one vividly.

Still, when I think of that dream, it flashes like a real life incident in my mind and I have always wished if I could have been more prepared for it because I went totally blank after waking up and I forgot the answers to most of the questions I asked this person in that dream.

Here Is the Story

That friend of mine has come to my home and I am talking with him about college issues.(It has been a long time since I have finished my graduation but, in the dream, I am still in college)

Suddenly, I realize that I am dreaming and this friend has left this world a few days ago.

I asked him a lot of questions, but, I remember a very little from that dream as the dream was lengthy and I was losing my lucidity very often.( This is called as semi-lucidity where you are not completely lucid to take full control of the dream)

The Conversation between Us

I asked him how he died first as many of us were doubting that he has committed suicide.

He told me that we were so stupid to think like that and whatever reports we have got from his family members was true, he even displayed his disgust towards people who were suspecting his family members for not being very transparent about what happened.

I was amazed by his answers. I remember that I also tried to control him using my “intent” because I wanted to check if it was his soul visiting my dream or was it just a thought form, but, the dream figure had his complete independence to amaze me with unexpected answers.

I was shocked when he said that “It is the time to go now, I have to visit another friend in his dream”. He also said that he will come back to earth soon( he was indicating towards reincarnation).

Was It Really His Soul Visiting Me?

In one of the chapters of the book Lucid Dreaming: Gateway to the Inner Self the author Robert Waggoner has very nicely explained about dreaming dead relatives and friends.

If you will read my post on some mind blowing lucid dreaming stories, there is a story where a deceased person shows up in a dream of a person and asks him to convey a message to his wife.

I should not comment on if it was real or not, I just can say that it was really an astonishing experience and I had goose bumps while talking to that dream figure. This was my personal experience and it was amazing, I don’t care whether it was my mind’s creation or a real meeting with him.

Unlimited Possibilities

When you take interest in things like lucid dreaming or soul searching, the possibilities are unlimited, but you must not get attached to your experiences.

I have learned that you should try to rationalize such experiences using your logical mind and also be careful about with whom you are sharing these stories.

Just take these experiences as if you have watched a movie. Do take actions that you think are necessary but don’t over think about that, just let it go!!!

Lucid dreaming is something that can be used for a lot of higher purposes, in fact, ancient Tibetans practice dream yoga for getting insights about consciousness continuing after death. You can never deny any possibility unless you are 100 percent certain about it and when it comes to spiritual experiences, you are never certain about any damn thing.


I hope you enjoyed this post. There is a meditation that I use for lucid dreaming that you may also like to try.

Do you also have any this type of interesting experience to share? I would love to hear your views on this, so please do share your opinions by commenting below. (Your email id will be safe and hidden; you can even prefer to use your secondary email id for commenting)

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16 thoughts on “Dreaming a Dead Friend-My Unforgettable Lucid Dreaming Experience

  1. Dwayne

    Thanks for sharing your Lucid Dreaming experience with us. It can be very weird when you have these experiences and feel uncomfortable sharing these dreams with others who may think we have taken a trip to the looney bin. Great that you put your experience out there so others can see that this can be a normal and enjoyable experience!

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Thanks for reading it Dwayne…yes actually we should learn to take these experiences in a positive way..we should enjoy them rather than worrying about things that are not in our control..:)

  2. Ryan Ibara

    Sounds like a crazy dream thanks for sharing! I have always been in to lucid dreaming and love it when I can actually do it. Great post!

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Don’t call that crazy Ryan..every dream has a meaning and a purpose..as I told we just should not label it..even I was skeptical when I read Robert Waggoner’s lucid dreaming experiences when I read the mentioned book..but now my doubts are clear..thanks for reading…

  3. Billy

    Hey! I’ve been into controling my dreams since I was a child I’m in my thirties now but, I feel that most people could improve thier lives with lucid dreaming. I’m gonna chech this out!

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Hi Billy, yes Lucid Dreaming could be very useful from the spiritual aspect and it could definitely help a person to improve his life in various ways..I am glad you checked it out..do come back for more such interesting posts.. :)..thanks

  4. Margaret Wangari

    Thanks for sharing such a complex topic. I know the inner things that are important tend to elude us sometimes but its a nice breath of fresh air to know that someone understands them and can help us along the way

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      I would be grateful if I can help you in any way, yes sometimes or even very often in the exploration of inner world we encounter things that we want to share but we are afraid..if you have any such thing to share just feel free to mail me… :)..thanks for reading..

  5. Chip Paulson

    Interesting stuff! I’ve been close to lucid before but I always ruin it by trying to hard to understand what’s going on. I can’t say that I believe there’s some deeper cosmic force at work but it might be as simple as your subconscious creating an entire world for you. Either way, I know it’s real and it can change your life to experience this, for better or worse.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Hi Chip, nice to hear that you have tried it before and hope this site helps you to solve the problems you have had while trying to have a lucid dream..you see as I refereed lets just enjoy this amazing stuff as a story (that is how I look at it but a story with a meaning)..lets leave what is behind the scene to what is beyond our understanding.. :)…Thank you for commenting…

  6. Kary S

    I lost a dear friend suddenly and unexpectedly. A few days after she passed, I had a very similar dream. She just kept telling me she is ok and I shouldn’t be so sad. I was in complete grieving mode and kept wanting to discuss how sad I was. I suspected that there was a reason for that dream and have hoped many times that this was really her speaking to me. For the past month, I have held onto this dream as a hope that she really is ok, even though I wasn’t ready to lose someone so unexpectedly and while she was so young. Thank you for sharing your story.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Sorry for your loss Kary, I know it is very hard to come out of these overwhelming thoughts but I am sure that your dream is a clear indication for you to move on now and as a matter of fact today or tomorrow we all have to go to the same place so we should enjoy the bonus days that we are getting here.
      Thank you so much for reading my post, I hope it helped you in some way..

  7. carl

    that’s great…i had same experienced like yours ,but it was a long time back when i was young boy,
    i did not pay attention, because for me it was only a dream.
    now i got a big picture….thanks for sharing your experiences on lucid dreaming.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Thank you for commenting, I believe its important to share our ld experiences with other lucid dreamers, it opens the door for more knowledge and also prepares others for their future lucid dreams.


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