Mindsets That Causes Money Issues in Relationships

It is essential for us to understand the factors that causes money issues in relationships because without this knowledge we may invite a lot of problems in our lives.

Most of the unsuccessful marriages usually have a lot to do with their financial situations; sometimes it is obvious whereas in most cases, people don’t actually know that the real reason behind the conflict is money.

I am not saying that money is to be blamed for the hatred that arises in the hearts of people for others, actually “money” as an entity has nothing to do with it, the subconscious beliefs that people hold about wealth is what creates the distance.

What’s more interesting is that often people’s inner mind creates many false reasons for them to fight with others and it never really seems like anything related to money.

I too never had any awareness of this before I opted for T. Harv Eker’s spiritual laws of money program, that course contains a whole module on this particular subject.

In this post I will be sharing with you a few things that will help you to improve your relationships with others by working on your “money blueprint “ as Harv puts it.

It Is Not about the Greed or the Desire for More Wealth

I am pretty much sure that many of you might have thought that I am talking about the desire to get rich, that also counts, but I am mainly talking about the tons of other ways you connect with others “financial wise” which also includes the hatred of money.

It is nearly impossible for a person who has no knowledge of his inner world to know what subconscious beliefs create his attitude towards wealth, his money mindset is one of the biggest factors that decide what type of people he will connect with and any change in this attitude will directly affect those relationships.

Your innate thoughts about money not only decide your financial situation, but it plays a big role in your personal and professional relationships.

So what can we do about it? Let see..

Pulling Money Out of Your Relationship Areas

You will have to leave those people who don’t really matter much in your life when their behavior towards you changes due to some kind of change in your financial situation because their hatred for you in that case would be due to their own psychological issues.

But, often there are deep, meaningful bonds that you might want to work on and this is a process that requires the efforts from both sides.

I am especially talking about marriages, with a careful analysis of the past you can know what beliefs create yours and your partner’s attitude towards wealth.

For example, a person might like to save a lot due a childhood experience where they faced financial scarcity during the time when they needed money the most, on the other hand his/her partner may have a habit of excessive spending, which might be due to an unconscious belief “money creates troubles” so they try to get rid of it as soon as they earn it.

Once you have come up with a proper belief list from both sides, you can work on changing it using affirmations, creative visualizations or energy clearing.

You can become each others assistant for doing this, and making action wise change is also important, like the spender will learn to save and vice versa.

In your family, you may be either unconsciously following the financial path of your parents and authority figures or you might be trying to prove their ways wrong, so in this case you should try to understand that you have complete freedom to choose a higher purpose for earning money than that. This will not only improve your family bonds, but it will also improve your financial situation.

When it comes to friendships, it is very essential that you should keep a watch that it should not be dependent on money in any way, you should neither be acting as a financial help for someone (unless they are in a serious need) nor you should be leveraging the comforts provided by a rich friend, because in both the cases it becomes a business of fellowship after sometime.
As I have mentioned before, to change these money related problems in your relationships you have to work on your inner world. For that you can use my favorite methods for clearing energy blocks.


I hope you enjoyed this post. What are your views on this? How have seen your relationships changing after a shift in your financial state? Share your opinions by commenting below, I would love to hear from you. (Your email id will be safe and hidden, you can even prefer your secondary email id for commenting)

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10 thoughts on “Mindsets That Causes Money Issues in Relationships

  1. ToveL

    Hi, and thanks for sharing an important matter partners often relate to. I have even experienced it myself in my own partnership with my fiance. He is equally good in both saving and spending and I are good in spending and bad in saving. So I am trying to learn how to save money now. I know what’s my issue and are trying to do something about.

    Thanks again for reminding me how important it is to be open to talk about matters like this.


    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      It really is important to discuss such matters because our life depends on it. I hope you will find balance in how you handle money, but I would suggest you to work on your inner mind before trying to do anything else since there might be some kind of strong psychological need that might be causing all this.

  2. David

    This is an interesting topic to think about. I believe money can cause some problems in a relationship, but we can deal with them as well as with other problems. One of the most important thing which can help us is communication.

  3. Suzanne

    Thank you for the article…what an interesting subject. Money can cause so many issues in relationships and friendships. I will definitely take a look at your article about your methods for clearing energy blocks.


  4. Heidi

    Yes, you are right: Money can easily serve as the topic around which people create their battles – which actually belong to something else. As you say: the problems we struggle with and which arise within marriages have seldom to do with the other person, but with our own conditioning and false beliefs.
    As money seems to be an “objective” thing, it gives a huge playing field for fights and conflict. There are others – children for instance – but deep down it is not about money but about an emotional need which people are unable to express otherwise.
    Fortunately today there are many programs and coaches who are capable to lead people out of this dilemma. I myself have done coaches trainings which first of all helped me to understand these things much better and then help others to transform their inner attitude and create harmony instead of fight.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Very true Heidi, you definitely have touched the essence of this whole talk because the psychological need you have mentioned here is exactly what I wanted to convey, our inner beliefs are responsible for all our actions so it is really wise to join programs and coaching that helps one to do that.

  5. wong

    It is absolutely true as I had experienced that too when I newly married. I told the truth about being a guarantor for my friend prior to our marriage. We had hit argument almost very alternative days. I used my subconscious mind to clear all the debt. It took me 7 solid years f hard work to clear the US$77,000.00

    Don’t you agree with me the castle and the dowry system had planted a deep root the in the mind of most the majority of the Indian citizen? My classmate’s cousin sister was burnt alive by the kerosene stove set up by her mother in law. I had seen the culture and the hardship of life in Indian village while I followed my classmate to his village.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Good to know that you were able to solve your money issue by doing the inner work.

      India is not the same now as it used to be when it comes to the dowry system, earlier I used to hear such tragic incidences very frequently but since after the government made amendments in the law to fight this system, it has been controlled to a great extent.

      Whenever I used to hear about the cruelty women faced due to this, I wanted to kill every person in my country who believed in such despicable culture, but then I realized that punishing people won’t do any good because the main culprit is the “cultural beliefs” that were passed down to them by their ancestors.

  6. Matt

    Yup money makes a huge difference in relationships. When the woman makes more money than the man it can cause issues if the man bases his confidence on this fact. Money is a two-way street so its important that when one gives money it is returned. The return doesn’t have to be in money necessarily but at least a return in maybe helping more around the house or whatnot.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Yes, there is a lot of things one must take care of while handling money because we all are emotionally attached to the “idea of wealth” on some level.


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