4 Positive Self-Talk Exercises for Success and Happiness

I think these positive self-talk exercises that I am going to share with you in this post is all you need in order to make an immediate positive shift in your life.


Well, believe it or not, our reality is created by what we think and all our thoughts are born out of the type of beliefs we hold in our subconscious mind, so when you became aware of what is usually going inside your mind and take control of it, you are in the process of changing the set of beliefs that are responsible for who you are today.

In a previous post, I talked about the techniques to overcome low self-esteem and one of those methods was on changing self-talks, in this post, I will take it a step further and share with you a few more methods that I use whenever I find myself thinking negatively.


You may have decided to practice these exercises and you may be very willing to change your thinking habits in a positive way but since our mind is always too busy with the other things of our daily lives, it usually becomes very difficult to use such methods.

That’s why keeping reminders is a very important thing!

Before you start using the exercises, I would advise you to use sticky notes that will remind you about these personal growth activities.

Stick it in your bedroom, bathroom, lunch box, fridge, and all the places where you go frequently.

You may not be feeling a need to set reminders, but it becomes very necessary when you are willing to do something like changing self-talks.

Okay, now let’s talk about the methods.

1 – Ho’oponopono Process

There is a reason why I put this particular exercise at the first place, this is something that has helped me a lot in my personal growth journey.

Actually, this is a process based on an ancient Hawaiian healing art and it works on your energy, this not only changes your inner state by energetically healing you but it also highly affects your external reality as well.

It is not possible for me to explain this process in a few lines, so I have made a whole post on it which you can read here – The Updated Ho’oponopono and Dr. Joe Vitale’s Zero Limits

2 – Affirmations

Obviously, using positive affirmations is one straight and clear method for positive thinking. Depending on your needs, you can choose any good affirmation and use it repeatedly throughout your day.

However, one of the best things that using affirmations does is that it gives you an opportunity to change any particular negative belief into a positive one because with a proper degree of awareness you can catch yourself whenever you are having a lot of negative thoughts and immediately use an appropriate affirmation that lifts you up by helping you to change the particular belief that is causing such thoughts.stop negative self talk

I call it the “instant belief changer”, in any moment when I feel a negative energy lurking in my system, I identify the beliefs causing those thoughts and feelings then I use affirmations to change that belief.

I have explained it in more detail in the advanced law of attraction wealth manifestation exercises post, though I have demonstrated how to use it for the money purpose there, you can use it for any particular area of your life.

3 – Short Story

This is a method where you tell yourself a short self-created story which brings some very uplifting visuals to your imagination.

You can use this during times when you know you are not feeling good or having too many negative thoughts.

It can be done in two ways:-

1 – Just like the previous method, when you find yourself thinking negatively about something, just stop yourself and instead of using an affirmation you can also prefer to tell yourself a story of the future where things happen according to your desire.

Once you become good at doing this you can save yourself from those worrying thoughts and create a better future by expecting only good things to happen.

2 – The second way of doing this also quite similar, but here you will tell yourself a positive story that’s unrelated to what you have been already thinking.

It is not always possible to think positively about something that is not going well or if you are too negative about it, so in all such cases you should simply prefer avoiding such types of thoughts altogether.

In order to do that, you can tell yourself some positive story of the future which is related to any other area of your life.

4 – Good Memories

One thing is common about all of us, we are never at the same place in any area of our lives where we have been before.

You may deny that but there is always a small or big change, you are either better than before or things might have gotten worse.

Maybe you would never have been a champion in any particular area of your life but there might have been times when it was better, even if it never worked, there must have been a time when it didn’t bother you at all.

So all you have to do here is to tell yourself about a past event when things went right in that specific area about which you are feeling negative right now.

Doing this will change your feelings about that situation and that’s all needed for improving it.

Many of us have those friends who keep reminding us of the good times by always saying things like “Hey, remember those days when we used to party every night”..I am not asking you to become one of those people because this moment is the most precious one and you must realize that.

However, when you are feeling negative, talking to yourself like that person about a good moment from history can work very well to change your mindset.


I hope you found this post helpful, if you are serious about changing your mindset so that you could be a more positive person who is in control of their life then I would suggest you Marisa Peer’s Uncompromised Life course where she teaches her amazing transformational hypnotherapy.

What are your opinions about these exercises? Do you have one to share? I would love to hear from you, so please leave your comments below before leaving. (Your email id will be safe and hidden, you can even prefer your secondary email id for commenting)

You can also mail me your queries at hari@zerotoinfinitude.com, I will be very happy to help you.

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14 thoughts on “4 Positive Self-Talk Exercises for Success and Happiness

  1. Shanna

    I took an assertiveness class a while ago, and most of these same techniques came up, because a huge part of being assertive is having a positive self-image. One other thing the teacher mentioned was journaling, which basically goes along with the affirmation and story telling techniques, just in a more permanent way. I hadn’t heard of the good memories technique before, and I think this might help me a lot. My problem with affirmation and story telling is that I can easily just tell myself “oh, you’re just making that up. It’s not real.” But memories are real, so that helps.

    1. HARI

      Yes, sometimes when your mind is not allowing you to imagine things that have not happened memory exercise is good. However, thinking of what you desire in life i necessary so what you can do is start with small goals, our mind offers less resistance when we imagine things that are easy to achieve, this way you can graudually move on to bigger goals in life.

  2. jeffrey16201

    Very good tips to stay positive and happy while motivated to be active and exercise, I do exercise daily short workouts seem to do best for me and i can exercise daily this way.

    I value affirmation and quotes very much to stay motivated every day, I am always reading for more knowledge on emotional and physical health methods to better my life.

  3. Linda

    I really loved your post. I like spiritual, self-development things, sometimes I think I am a little bit obsessed with them. 🙂 I often used “good memory” method and it always made me smile. Now I am using affirmations to change my thinking. I think it is worked because I would not be writing my own blog if I would think the same as before. I never used the first method, but about “short story” method I am not so sure, I jus don’t remember. Nice exercises. I really like good memory method and affirmation, these are my favorites. I think sometimes I use daydreaming about things, imagine something. Maye it is similar to short story method. What is your favorite one?

    1. HARI

      Well, Linda, I don’t actually have one particular visualization exercise that I love the most because I like to bring some excitement in my visualization sessions in order to make it intresting, sometimes I will imagine a old memory and use that scenerio to generate a similar one with more good things happening, sometimes I let my mind decide what should come next, I even enjoy going back to my childhood and imagine things happening so that my inner child could feel better. I prefer to not keep it something I just use for manifesting things always, it is all about rasing vibrations.

  4. Joeka

    Those are some great examples, Hari. I’m definitely going to read your post on the law of attraction now.

    You had asked for some examples to spark positivity and I think a great one would be to simply smile, even if you don’t mean it at first. You’d be surprised as to how it can change your mood. You may end up laughing at yourself for having put on the silly face and as you know, laughter is the best medicine.

    Keep up the good work my brother.


    1. HARI

      Oh yes, that’s a very good method. I have read about that, it says that putting up a fake smile tricks our system because our mind associates smile with joy and thus it results as one actually feeling happy.

  5. Reggie

    Hello. Thank you for the article. I really enjoy reading articles like this because it puts my mind in check. I start to want to give up on what I am doing and I know that I can succeed. I just need to start believing that I can and not give up. I appreciate the information you gave to me and others. It is very inspiring.

  6. Furkan

    I believe that my reality is created by what I think but I just can’t control it. I sometimes pursue something and until I get it I feel hmm not unhappy but I feel incomplete. I think I can use affirmation method for myself; it looks like a method for me. I hope I can benefit from it. Even though sometimes feeling incomplete is not too bad but still it can make me depressed.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      That is a tricky situation we all get into, it is so paradoxical, you want something but you are not allowing it to happen just because you are not able to get into the right emotional state. You must find a way to be at peace with your desires because then only your journey will get easier.


    I am in the personal development space as well and I live and breathe it every day. I like the techniques you provided for self-talk. The one that surprised me most was the short story, I had never heard of that one before but it makes sense why it would work. Thanks for the inspiration!


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