4 Methods to Overcome Low Self-Esteem – Build a Healthy Self-Image

In this post, I am going to provide a few very simple methods on how to overcome low self-esteem because when you have a low self-esteem you are like a dragon that is not aware of its abilities. Crawling on the ground not knowing you can fly, afraid of others without being aware of your strengths and running away from your few enemies despite having a breath that can set a whole army on fire.

That’s really true, we all have so many unique skills and talents that we have been hiding from ourselves and the world just because somewhere inside we are not confident enough.

It really does not matter if you have a personality that seems pretty much confident if you are not doing what you love and you are compromising your life in any way then there is a great chance that you are having a low self-esteem.

This post is not going to be any motivational content that will just fill you up with stories so that you could feel charged and start running towards your dreams today only to find that you are the same old person the next day, we are going to work on the roots in order to make an everlasting change. Before that, there are few things I would like to share with you on why we unconsciously become our own enemies.

Self-Image and the Subconscious Mind

Self-esteem is all about how you feel about yourself innately. If you are like most people you will be pretty much sure that you do like yourself, but you can know the truth only by observing your thoughts closely.

Do you say things to yourself that stops you from taking strong positive actions? During difficult situations do you berate yourself? Are you a terrible friend to yourself?

If yes, then you are having a low self-esteem.

You don’t have to worry if you fall into that category because knowing it alone is a big step forward in your personal growth journey as a plethora of people don’t even care to do anything about their own improvement.

See, our self-esteem is the degree to which we like ourselves and that’s directly dependent on the self-image we hold inside our powerful subconscious mind.

This self-image is totally responsible for who we are now and all our behaviors, this will also determine how we will be in the future.

Our self-image is how we see ourselves, in better words, it is how our inner mind perceives we are. We have created this self-image unconsciously based on the incidences occurred in the past, especially our childhood.

This is why I often emphasize a lot on building a winner self-image for kids because childhood is a phase where our mind accepts anything to be true and it goes deep into our subconscious mind, and you know what? Beliefs present in our subconscious mind becomes our reality.

We cannot change the past, but we surely can change the self-image that we have formed using various techniques and here in this post I will be showing you a few simple methods that you can use to alter your self-image into a healthy one.

4 Simple Techniques to Build a Healthy Self-Image

1 – Visualize Your Better Version

Our subconscious mind is like a kid, it loves stories and visuals. That’s why visualization is so powerful because your intentions are communicated properly when you use your imagination.

Some people do think that they cannot imagine but we all are using our imagination most of the time unknowingly. Visualization can be done effectively following few simple steps ( If you are unsure about how to visualize, read my post – 8 Ways to Make Your Creative Visualization Process Super Effective)

All you have to do is visualize yourself as the version of yourself who is fully confident, believes in what he does, never compromises and is an all time winner.

Do this regularly and you will see the behavioral changes that will lead you to be better than before because doing this alters your self-image.

2 – Affirmations

Honestly, I don’t like using affirmations much, since it is not that interesting but repeated words do have a great impact on our minds, so prefer finding some affirmations that sound interesting to me.

Here’s my way to formulate an interesting affirmation when I am working on my self-image: –

1 Keep it real – Affirmations becomes boring and ineffective when you feel like the words aren’t true.

2 No Negation – Do not use a negation or negative word in your affirmation.

Here an example – Suppose you are having trouble to face people and getting social due to your low self-esteem, you can formulate your affirmations like this in order to overcome that particular problem: –

1 – Let’s start with what would be an obvious one “I am not afraid of people”.

I will not choose that because the negation “not” and also a negative word “afraid” is being used in it.

2 – I am super confident and I just become people’s favorite wherever I go.

This one is good and very positive, however, I will not use it when my self-esteem is very low because that will sound so untrue in such situations, I will save that for later instead.

3 – I am sure I am going to meet people with whom I will be very comfortable.

Now that sounds a very appropriate affirmation for our purpose, isn’t it? You can make any affirmation that sounds true and positive to you and once you have used it enough, you can then proceed to make a more positive one.

3 – Change Your Self Talks

One of the easiest ways to become more confident in anything you do is to watch your thoughts whenever you are saying negative words to yourself and stop yourself right there, then change those talks into a positive one.

For example if you failed at something, you can probably hear yourself saying words to yourself like “I am a loser”, “I am not good enough to do this”, “I cannot do it”.. Just take a pause when you become aware of these self-talks and then convert them into something that’s positive yet convincing (in a way that your mind does not feel like you are lying), in this case you can say “It is okay to fail sometimes, at least I learned something”, “I am definitely going to succeed the next time”, “I am only going to get better”..You know what I am saying right? Be your best friend because you are the only one who can be present with yourself all the time.

4 – Doing Self Love Activities

Self-love activities are the ones that make you happy, where you give your emotional state the first priority in life.

Doing this is very necessary because if you won’t keep yourself happy you cannot make anyone else in the world happy, that’s a fact so I would strongly suggest you to frequently do self-love activities.

It is all about doing things that you love and giving time to things that put you in a happy state if mind. That also includes the spiritual activities like meditation.

Taking care of your health and appearance also counts, see when you will start to do things that matter to you just like you do whatever makes your loved ones happy, your inner mind starts to acknowledge that you love yourself and that will naturally raise your self-esteem.


Those were few methods using which you can become a more confident person, however, if you want to take it to the next level then I will advise you to opt for the uncompromised life program, where celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer will assist you to overcome your self-esteem problems using hypnotherapy and this program is also a great tool for programming your mind for success in all the areas of your life.

I hope you enjoyed this post, please do share your opinions on this with me by commenting below.

You can also mail me your queries at hari@zerotoinfinitude.com, I will be very happy to help you.

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14 thoughts on “4 Methods to Overcome Low Self-Esteem – Build a Healthy Self-Image

  1. Jen

    What an uplifting article. I have struggled with low self esteem that started in high school and has unfortunately followed me into my adult life. Good news as I am SO much better than I used to be. I really your thoughts and the points you made about creating a healthier self image. Seriously – great stuff right here. Thank you so much for sharing!

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      It really is a great news that you have overcome those self-esteem issues from your high school, in the end it is a choice that we make, live with it or do something about it right?

  2. Kenneth

    I feel more people would benefit themselves if they read this post. The lessons that we learned in our childhood can either help us face difficulties triumphantly or make us afraid to even try. The biggest hurdle to overcome is facing the problem head-on because most people won’t accept the fact that they have a problem. When I fail at something I do as you said in this post – I re-create the situation in my mind but think it through and see myself having success. The next time I face the same challenge I have a much better chance of succeeding because I have a positive successful image in my memory to relate to. I totally agree with your approach in overcoming adversity.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Wow, Kenneth that is actually a great process, many people call it changing the past which means we are actually reliving a moment from a different perspective so that all the energies we have associated with that particular memory changes into a positive one. I really appreciate your knowledge…!!!!

  3. Arief Wibowo

    I think I might have a low self esteem.
    I tend to think in a negative way.

    I love how you advised me to change the way I talk about myself and negate the negative words.
    I will try it.
    Thank you so much.

  4. Andrew D

    This really resonated with me as I struggled with this in the past. The part about having a vision and keeping that vision alive was crucial to my development. I found that it helped me to cut and paste them all onto a hard board and keep it by my bed so it was the first thing I saw in the morning and the last thing before sleeping. Have you found any success with keeping a progress journal? I have found that writing down and physically getting out the bad stuff inside helps a lot of people. I guess it could fall under changing your self talks or affirmations. Either way great read!

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Ahh..Vision boards, they work I know and I have also made a post on a special method to make visions boards.
      When we have a vision of the future that we want, our inner mind uses its power to attract those images and make it our reality. I don’t keep that kind of journal anymore because it intensifies the negative emotions as we are focusing on those bad memories, I would advise you to burn the papers and imagine releasing all negative energies when it burns if you want to benefit from that, I have made a post on that as well – The Burning Bowl Meditation

  5. Paul

    Hey Hari,
    This was a nice and motivating piece you obviously know your stuff.
    Speaking as someone who has experienced low esteem, shyness, lack of confidence, I can say that the techniques you explain in this piece do help to an extent.
    The attitude you approach these techniques with is important also, you must be open minded and positive.
    Also if we are to grow in terms of esteem we have to push ourselves and get out of our comfort zone a little at a time. As our confidence grows in certain situations So will our self esteem.

  6. Grace

    Really love your suggestions on how to improve your self image. I’ve done some of these but was looking for something else but wasn’t sure what.

    When I came across your post and saw that I could be doing self love activities, it was an eye opener for me. I really have not done that for myself and need to incorporate this into my life.

    I think taking care of ourselves is important but as a mom, I often forget about me. So thanks for your post, it has really helped me.

    Best to you,

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      I know it is difficult to get into self-love activities as a mom but to raise happy kids I think you must be a happy mom first, so that also should be there on your priority list.

  7. Lindsey

    These are all great tips. I especially like your tips on affirmations and self talks. I definitely do not have low self esteem in particular but I have a problem with approaching and interacting with people. I guess that can stem a little from a not perfect self esteem. I do believe that affirmations will help me to understand that I am capable of going to people and being myself around them and that they will like me. And I guess this goes hand in hand with self talk because a lot of the times I tell myself that I cannot approach people and I attribute it to the kind of person I am. But maybe I should attribute it to the words I put in my head and what I say about myself that are holding me back. Thank you for this post. It really has opened my eyes to the changes I need to make.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      I am so happy to hear that this post was helpful to you Lindsey. Have you ever thought why you are not so good at interacting with people? Well, that’s usually a belief working deep inside us which says “what will they think about me”, the fear of being judged and that is a result of a weak self-image. As I have mentioned, we always are not aware of our inner issues, but a little observation can go a long way. Affirmations and changing self-talks can really help you with that..all the best!


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