In this post, I am going to provide a few very simple methods on how to overcome low self-esteem because when you have a low self-esteem you are like a dragon that is not aware of its abilities. Crawling on the ground not knowing you can fly, afraid of others without being aware of your strengths and running away from your few enemies despite having a breath that can set a whole army on fire.
That’s really true, we all have so many unique skills and talents that we have been hiding from ourselves and the world just because somewhere inside we are not confident enough.
It really does not matter if you have a personality that seems pretty much confident if you are not doing what you love and you are compromising your life in any way then there is a great chance that you are having a low self-esteem.
This post is not going to be any motivational content that will just fill you up with stories so that you could feel charged and start running towards your dreams today only to find that you are the same old person the next day, we are going to work on the roots in order to make an everlasting change. Before that, there are few things I would like to share with you on why we unconsciously become our own enemies.
Self-Image and the Subconscious Mind
Self-esteem is all about how you feel about yourself innately. If you are like most people you will be pretty much sure that you do like yourself, but you can know the truth only by observing your thoughts closely.
Do you say things to yourself that stops you from taking strong positive actions? During difficult situations do you berate yourself? Are you a terrible friend to yourself?
If yes, then you are having a low self-esteem.
You don’t have to worry if you fall into that category because knowing it alone is a big step forward in your personal growth journey as a plethora of people don’t even care to do anything about their own improvement.
See, our self-esteem is the degree to which we like ourselves and that’s directly dependent on the self-image we hold inside our powerful subconscious mind.
This self-image is totally responsible for who we are now and all our behaviors, this will also determine how we will be in the future.
Our self-image is how we see ourselves, in better words, it is how our inner mind perceives we are. We have created this self-image unconsciously based on the incidences occurred in the past, especially our childhood.
This is why I often emphasize a lot on building a winner self-image for kids because childhood is a phase where our mind accepts anything to be true and it goes deep into our subconscious mind, and you know what? Beliefs present in our subconscious mind becomes our reality.
We cannot change the past, but we surely can change the self-image that we have formed using various techniques and here in this post I will be showing you a few simple methods that you can use to alter your self-image into a healthy one.
4 Simple Techniques to Build a Healthy Self-Image
1 – Visualize Your Better Version
Our subconscious mind is like a kid, it loves stories and visuals. That’s why visualization is so powerful because your intentions are communicated properly when you use your imagination.
Some people do think that they cannot imagine but we all are using our imagination most of the time unknowingly. Visualization can be done effectively following few simple steps ( If you are unsure about how to visualize, read my post – 8 Ways to Make Your Creative Visualization Process Super Effective)
All you have to do is visualize yourself as the version of yourself who is fully confident, believes in what he does, never compromises and is an all time winner.
Do this regularly and you will see the behavioral changes that will lead you to be better than before because doing this alters your self-image.
2 – Affirmations
Honestly, I don’t like using affirmations much, since it is not that interesting but repeated words do have a great impact on our minds, so prefer finding some affirmations that sound interesting to me.
Here’s my way to formulate an interesting affirmation when I am working on my self-image: –
1 Keep it real – Affirmations becomes boring and ineffective when you feel like the words aren’t true.
2 No Negation – Do not use a negation or negative word in your affirmation.
Here an example – Suppose you are having trouble to face people and getting social due to your low self-esteem, you can formulate your affirmations like this in order to overcome that particular problem: –
1 – Let’s start with what would be an obvious one “I am not afraid of people”.
I will not choose that because the negation “not” and also a negative word “afraid” is being used in it.
2 – I am super confident and I just become people’s favorite wherever I go.
This one is good and very positive, however, I will not use it when my self-esteem is very low because that will sound so untrue in such situations, I will save that for later instead.
3 – I am sure I am going to meet people with whom I will be very comfortable.
Now that sounds a very appropriate affirmation for our purpose, isn’t it? You can make any affirmation that sounds true and positive to you and once you have used it enough, you can then proceed to make a more positive one.
3 – Change Your Self Talks
One of the easiest ways to become more confident in anything you do is to watch your thoughts whenever you are saying negative words to yourself and stop yourself right there, then change those talks into a positive one.
For example if you failed at something, you can probably hear yourself saying words to yourself like “I am a loser”, “I am not good enough to do this”, “I cannot do it”.. Just take a pause when you become aware of these self-talks and then convert them into something that’s positive yet convincing (in a way that your mind does not feel like you are lying), in this case you can say “It is okay to fail sometimes, at least I learned something”, “I am definitely going to succeed the next time”, “I am only going to get better”..You know what I am saying right? Be your best friend because you are the only one who can be present with yourself all the time.
4 – Doing Self Love Activities
Self-love activities are the ones that make you happy, where you give your emotional state the first priority in life.
Doing this is very necessary because if you won’t keep yourself happy you cannot make anyone else in the world happy, that’s a fact so I would strongly suggest you to frequently do self-love activities.
It is all about doing things that you love and giving time to things that put you in a happy state if mind. That also includes the spiritual activities like meditation.
Taking care of your health and appearance also counts, see when you will start to do things that matter to you just like you do whatever makes your loved ones happy, your inner mind starts to acknowledge that you love yourself and that will naturally raise your self-esteem.
Those were few methods using which you can become a more confident person, however, if you want to take it to the next level then I will advise you to opt for the uncompromised life program, where celebrity hypnotherapist Marisa Peer will assist you to overcome your self-esteem problems using hypnotherapy and this program is also a great tool for programming your mind for success in all the areas of your life.
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