What Gives the Attractive Power to Something? – An Interesting Psychological Fact

At different points of my life, I have asked myself – What is it that actually attracts people? Is it attitude? Personality traits? Behaviour? Talent? Skill? Or even what is most commonly perceived as the source of attraction – Appearance?

Whether you agree or not, we all want people to turn their attention toward us in one way or the other. Unless you are someone meditating in the Jungles or the Himalayas, you want to be seen or heard by others in your life because that’s how we express ourselves. How will we know that we exist if no one was there to perceive us?

Not everyone in the world wants to attract a large audience, but there are people in our lives who matter a lot to us, without their attention we may feel a deep sense of incompleteness.

There are also those who have shut themselves from the social world and don’t want to be seen at all, but they also seek attention indirectly, may be using some form of work they do.

Needless to say, people who are not much happy with the world also try to express their hatred and gain attention by doing unacceptable things.

When seen from a higher perspective, you can understand that we all like the kids who do good things or mischievous things just to gain the attention of their parents. By working on your inner beliefs you can get the “neediness” part handled to a great extent..that’s a whole another story.

Since this is such an important thing for us, let’s contemplate over what gives the attraction power to anything in this world.

The Glittering Gold

The attraction has a specific energetic quality like any other human emotion, you can feel it. With a little awareness, you can feel and know that everything in this world has some sort of attractive quality to it.

Not everything may appear attractive to you from your perspective but the same thing that you find unattractive might be of great value to someone else.

However, whenever you feel that pull toward something you can notice that a mechanism that’s deeper than the level of your logical thinking is at work. It could be instinctive like the moth that has a natural tendency to get attracted towards flame or it could be a predisposition limited to you.

When I was a kid, I used to ask my mother why people are so obsessed with gold? She would tell me that it is an expensive metal, but later I realized that what actually made it expensive was people’s attraction toward it, I thought that the glitter alone cannot be a reason for its value so the question remained unanswered. Then my chemistry teacher told me that gold is a rarely found metal which has some great qualities and applications, now it made total sense to me.

But does the value of gold actually depend on the true facts that it is of great importance in the industrial uses? No, the price is high because people are attracted toward the jewelry that’s glittery; the truth was the same elementary level logic. But this time the “glitter” I began to discern was not in the appearance instead it was the “perception” of people. The idea that gold is a valuable thing (gold has been considered as a valuable asset for centuries because earlier it was used for transactions) is what makes it attractive, so what my mother said using her common sense was really the ultimate truth.

Here’s simple logic – Where there is power, there is an attraction and what is attractive gains attention.

But this simple thing is misinterpreted by most people – Nothing in this world has any inherent quality of its own which makes it powerful, qualities can make something useful but not powerful.

You can name a thousand qualities that give things/people the power to attract attention and I can give examples that will disprove it. I am not challenging anyone, with an open mind anyone can see it for themselves.

So.. what is it that actually gives the power to the things which attract people?

You Always Knew the Answer

I am not going to tell you something new, everyone knows this deep inside their heart and the limiting beliefs that are deeply imbued in people’s subconscious mind is what blinds them from seeing this.

Since this is the month of the game of thrones season, I would like to share a video from that TV show to make this point clear. It’s one of my favorite scenes from season 2 where Lord Varys talks to Tyrion, you can also skip watching the video if you are not interested as I will be talking about it briefly afterward:-

Lord Varys says “Power resides where people believe it resides, it’s a trick, a shadow on the wall and a very small man can cast a very large shadow”..I love those lines, so true!..(Give me a nod and yes in the comments if that resonates with your understanding of the world too)

Our beliefs are what gives power to something, there is nothing so attractive about anything unless people believe it to be attractive. I don’t mean the surface level beliefs, but the deeply rooted ones in our powerful subconscious mind which are a result of the ideologies that has been passed down to us by our ancestors.

One may ask “What about general things toward which everyone is attracted?” Believe it or not, the beliefs that give power to things are not so easily discernible because we have deep layers of unconscious mind conditionings that generate various emotional responses toward people and situations, this also decides our likes and dislikes. We are talking about collective human psychology here which is also a by-product of the evolution process.

Cultural and social paradigms play a great role in creating our individualistic viewpoints about the world, yet there are also commonly accepted concepts that define power for people like money, position, fame, etc. But as an individual, we always have the choice to look past all the illusory walls created by our own mind.

People like Gandhi and Abraham Lincoln overcame their psychological barriers; they choose to believe in themselves and their principles. Simple people with simple family backgrounds, but history has seen how powerful any common person can be.

I don’t say that in one day you can stop seeking the power outside and believe in your own inner power by just accepting this idea on a conscious level, that would be self-deception, you have to really get rid of the dense layers of your subconscious beliefs to reach there.

That can be done by becoming aware of the inner beliefs that make us who we are and by eliminating those beliefs using consistent efforts to build a new mindset.

Once that paradigm shift happens, your life really changes.


And yeah, what about the attraction people usually feel toward babies? That’s not attraction, that’s love. Love arises from the deep connectedness we feel when we are reminded of our true nature. Joy, unlike happiness, arises from unconditional love .. that’s a whole another story 🙂


I use energy clearing methods I learned from Christie’s unlimited abundance course for cleaning these inner beliefs present in my subconscious mind and it has worked well for me. If you find it hard to believe in the techniques like “energy clearing” then you can also try something equally effective like transformational hypnotherapy or simply read some great books for your personal growth.



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16 thoughts on “What Gives the Attractive Power to Something? – An Interesting Psychological Fact

  1. Marley Dawkins

    Interesting, well i don’t know much about Christie’s energy clearing live performance, but i agree that working out what makes people attracted to something is a fascinating subject – like you say it doesn’t matter who you are everyone wants to get attention for something, and i would even argue that the guy meditating in the Himalayas will probably brag to his friends when he gets back to his home country 🙂

    Anyway I think I will look closer at this Unblock you abundance masterclass based on your post, because i think there is a lot of valid points here, so thanks a lot for sharing this with me!

    1. HARI

      After a long discussion like this and the conclusion, it would have been unfair if I didn’t provide a solution to the problem so I preferred recommending my favorite programs and methods. However, knowledge alone is the most important step of self-empowerment.

      So happy to hear that you found something useful in this post!

  2. Rohan shah

    I like your content very much. You have deeply explained about attention, It’s true for each and every human being. Everybody including children wants attention and they are doing positive and negative things for attention.
    I have also like on sub conscious mind due to this only we got dreams after sleeping in the night.
    Thanks, mr. Nair for beautiful content.
    I am Rohan Shah from Mumbai

  3. GabeTheGreat369

    Wow, this was a great read, thanks so much!

    I have been debating the power of attraction lately and the scenarios that come with it, so it was great to see the title for this post pop up.

    The glittering gold section is especially applicable to almost everyone’s life, most people do not know where this attraction to gold and other ‘shinies’ originated, but it seems to have been present in human culture for quite some time now

    1. HARI

      That gold example is a tip of the iceberg, most of our way of perceiving the world is conditioned. Like a computer program, the beliefs that were formed by our ancestors still operate in human psychology.

      I shared this post with a friend who gave a very good example of how the caveman mindset still affects us, for example, the attraction that commonly is felt by women toward physically strong men comes from the time physical strength was of utter importance for survival!

  4. Israel

    Hi Hari!

    Varys is so right with that ending sentence. We got the power in us, we usually let people take away that power because we’re insecure and we do not believe we actually have it.

    My opinion is when you truly believe you got the power to do anything, nobody can stop you, and that is valid for anybody from slaves to kings.

    The attraction to things I guess is very relative, it depends on what you’re seeking at that moment and also if you’re that kind of people, it also depends on what’s the social trend.

    Very insightful and open-minding article. Thanks for sharing it with us.

    Cheers! 😉

    1. HARI

      “My opinion is when you truly believe you got the power to do anything,

      nobody can stop you, and that is valid for anybody from slaves to kings”…well said. Thanks for sharing your views on this.

  5. GeorgeS

    Great article! Attention is what drives many, if not all of us. Many want to be more successful, prettier, and smarter all because they need more attention. They want to be valuated and accepted. Even the guy that is meditating wants to be accepted in his environment. As you’ve stated, to be accepted, firstly we need the attention from others. You’ve made everything so clear and simple with this article. It’s crazy how everything is so simple.

    1. HARI

      Absolutely George, some of the deepest truths of life is often so simple. Maybe our tendency to make everything complicated is what stops us from seeing it.

  6. Jacquie

    Oooh, attraction! I have always felt that attraction is driven by a complex cascade of chemicals that are are set off by the things we find pleasing to our senses.
    Having said that, I’ve also felt attraction driven by stories.
    The psychology or it, as you’ve described makes it a lot more interesting too, and your example of someone meditating in the jungles had me saying, ‘but, in this day and age, most that do this will be sharing their experience anyway, so they still will be getting attention after their quest for spirituality in the Himalayas’, right? Never the less, a very interesting article, and with directions to explore more, should a reader want to.
    Thanks for sharing!

    1. HARI


      There are definitely those instinctual characteristics that are resulted from biological processes like chemical reactions in the brain or whatever that makes our body react in a certain way but the psychology of attraction is a different thing. 

      Like, a cat senses the smell of fish and its mouth starts watering, that’s a natural instinctual reaction..it will eat the fish and be done with it. But when it comes to people, if they had some great time while having a food in a restaurant they will associate all those feelings with the food and later imagine about this great taste with all added fictitious colors to it..then they will exaggerate it to people, slowly they give the power to a brand and so is born a brand of food that attracts a lot of people..this is why wise businessmen always focus on keeping their customers happy!

  7. Chris

    This was a very intriguing article and really perked my interest. I love the topic of psychology and attraction and what are the biological motivators behind human behavior. To me there is nothing more fascinating, except maybe the universe itself, but this was a great read. Thanks so much! Im going to be coming back to read more on my lunch break

    1. HARI

      Thanks, Chris, both the universe and what’s within are equally fascinating subjects because there is no end to either of them..:)

  8. JohnB

    Wow, what a read! The most important part of it, has to be the ending. We should stop seeking outside power and believe in the power the resides within ourselves. Utterly, If you can convince the world and yourself that you can have an impact on this world, people will give you the power and attraction to do that.

    In order to gain attraction and power you have to believe in yourself first and combine this belief with tons of actions. Believing alone won’t get you anywhere: \

    The ancient greeks used to say : “Συν Αθηνά και χείρα κίνει”, which translates as: Believe and pray to goddess Athena (the goddess of wisdom) but move your hand too.

    1. HARI

      Loved to hear your perspective on this, John 🙂

      Actually, I often find the “believing and action” debate quite amusing because they are not two different things. A person either acts in a certain way or he acts in the opposite way depending on what he truly believes.

      If someone says “I believe I am going to become a millionaire” and does nothing to move in that direction, that is self-deception because when someone truly believes in something like that, you will see them taking actions all the time! That’s why I specifically added that “inner beliefs” part there,  believing is not a surface level thinking as it seems to be.


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