Lucid Dreaming Reality Checks – All You Need to Know!

Most people either do it incorrectly or they are less focused towards this particular method, but I believe that lucid dreaming reality checks are of utmost importance if you are willing to become a conscious dreamer.

Yeah it is true that you can do whatever you want in your dreams as a conscious dreamer and live what can be called a “virtual reality” when you are asleep with practice, but lucid dreaming is basically all about becoming aware in your dreams.

You may say “that is not everything, it is just the first step”, but I say it is everything!

Why?? – Because all you learn as an expert conscious dreamer, whether let it be “having long lucid dreams”, “lucid dreaming frequently”, “being in control of your dreams” etc etc, it all boils down to the dream awareness. The more conscious you become, the better it gets.

With my interest in both spiritual practices and lucid dreaming, I understood something on a deeper level about what separates our dream world and waking life, and it just bubbled up recently due to a very interesting online course I joined and that’s what I am going to share here with you.

The Crucial Difference between Dreams and Reality

Have you ever wondered why we actually are not able to know it when we are dreaming? Why we become so less aware of the true nature of reality in dreams?

It is alright if the gravitational pull is less, the time is not moving properly, or even if pigs are flying, we are hardly concerned about anything that happens in our dream world except our own experience. How true is that when it comes to waking life?

I agree we are aware enough to pay attention if something “huge” happens when we are awake, but apart from that we are mostly engaged in what is happening in our minds and not the outer world.

Our thoughts keep us in a “hypnotic state” unless something from outside catches our attention. The main purpose of all spiritual activities like meditation and mindfulness exercises is to make us more aware so that we could interpret the world “as it is”.

We are constantly moving between the objective reality and the subjective reality, and mostly we are living in the subjective one since the objective reality is not that interesting and our mind hates boredom.

Dreams are also a part of our subjective reality!..Apart from the objective part of the waking life, everything else is present there as well..our thoughts, emotions, sense perceptions, you name it.

So, unless you start becoming more aware of your inner and outer world in order to realize that a world exists around us which is independent of how we perceive it, you probably will have a lot of difficulty in becoming conscious in your dreams because this waking life “lack of alertness” is what we carry into our dreams.

Even though you can improve your awareness using spiritual practices and get better at differentiating your dreams with reality, there is something else that makes it easy for the lucid dreamers to become conscious when they dream – Reality Checks!

Waking Up in Your Dreams

I took that line from the Andrew Hillock’s new dream sculpting program, it is the product that I mentioned I recently bought. Okay, so if you really want to be good at lucid dreaming, apart from focusing too much on all the methods, like some specific meditation for conscious dreaming, visualization or anything that you might have known from somewhere, reality checks are what you should try to master.

I am not saying that the other things are of no use, they have their own importance, especially for beginners, but in the long run, the habit of performing reality checks is what will help you.

The Right Way to Perform Reality Checks

When I began this post I said that most of the people who fail to understand the significance of reality checks either don’t give much focus towards it or don’t do it correctly. Well, I have talked a lot about why it is necessary now let’s see how to do it the right way.

I am not going to give you a 100 tips on this or introduce you to a new “working formula”, it doesn’t matter what reality check you use or how you do it, just keep two things in mind: –

1 – Make it a part of your life.

2 – Do it with total sincerity and genuine curiosity.

What people tend to do is to use this tool for the end goal i.e. to induce lucid dreams, but reality checks are not there for generating lucid dreams, yes you heard me right, it is for knowing “the truth”, which is whether what you are experiencing right now is real or not.

If you will do the reality check and think “I know I am not dreaming, but I have to do this for becoming a lucid dreamer”, it is never going to work because the chances are that you will perform it in your dreams with the same kind of thoughts.

But if you will start doing it in order to question your reality with genuine intentions of knowing the truth, you will naturally do that in your dreams and with your new heightened awareness you will eventually start having frequent lucid dreams.


That’s all I wanted to share with you, I could have provided some reality checks here also, but I have already made a good list in a previous post that was about turning sleep paralysis and false awakenings into a lucid dream, so in case you want to know them please read the final part of that post.

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8 thoughts on “Lucid Dreaming Reality Checks – All You Need to Know!

  1. wendy

    Lucid dreaming is very interesting to me and I think that perhaps I have done it without even being aware of it. I’m not sure if I fully understand lucid dreaming. I have at times been aware that I was dreaming and sort of made my dream a movie. I have woken up and been able to go back to sleep and continue my dream.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      I can’t believe that I have two people commenting about something that I have been striving to do for a long time, continuing the dreams from where you leave it, wow! Wendy, I am pretty much sure that you have done lucid dreaming unknowingly but was not able to remember it later on.

  2. Cat Pillar

    The first ‘trick” in learning to control your dreams is to remember your dreams. That takes effort and practise. ( “False awakening” is more… an unreliable shortcut into a lucid dream once you know how to do it.)

    We remember dreams if we wake up during or directly after them but only for a very short time: seconds to maybe a coupla minutes… so.
    If you want to learn to remember your dreams, keep a notebook and pencil next to your bed – right next to it and within immediate easy reach. As soon as you wake up, pick them up and start writing down everything you can remember about what you were dreaming.

    Keep doing this every morning until you can remember your dreams even without having to write them down. Once you can remember them, when you go back to bed you can deliberately re-enter the dream and be aware you are dreaming. When you are dreaming and aware you are dreaming – you can decide what to dream etc. If your dream starts getting scary or unpleasant – you just … redirect it to something nice, happy, pleasant. if you want to solve something bothering you – dream possible solutions to it etc. (You know that – “I’ll sleep on it” thingie? This is part of it.)

    Anyway, that’s how I learnt it. It takes effort and practise (you have to want it and DO it every morning and night.) Be warned, the practise is much easier to lose than to gain – and there’s no “short road” back – you have to start with learning to remember your dreams again.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      That’s a very good advise and I have wrote a lot about dream journals because obviously you will never know what happened in your dreams if you don’t remember them, but my intention here is to help people know something that separates our waking life and dream world, the root cause that makes us forget everything about reality while dreaming. And I have also mentioned that in the end that this is not about inducing lucid dreams but becoming more aware since that is what a lucid dreamer needs the most to get better at it.

      You enter into dreams after waking up an resume from where you left, well I believe that you have developed your ability to remember dreams to an extent that you are able to take it to the new levels, a friend of mine had learned to do this too, I would love to be able to do the same!..thank you so much for sharing this here.

  3. Andrea Sivani

    Wow, Hari this is a great post. I have heard of lucid dreaming before but I didn’t really know too much about it. I thought it was similiar to astral projection (which i have read a few stories of people’s experiences and if I’m completely honest, it kinda sounded a little scary to me!) but after reading your post I can see they are a little different. I think I may have experienced lucid dreaming once or twice in my life and didn’t realise until now… Thanks for sharing!

    1. HARI

      Yes Andrea, there is a very good chance that you might have already had some lucid dreams, we all do, but we forget most of them as soon as we wake up.

  4. Danny

    At the age of 37 I’m still fascinated by what the mind does when we dream. Stories/projections of the strangest things happen, almost like you could think of these dreams if you tried.

    My 3 year old woke the other day and began telling me story of how he’d just been to 7-11 in the car with mum and he ate all the marshmallows! He’d just been dreaming and couldn’t tell the difference between that and reality. So cute.

    Great post

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Isn’t it amazing how kids enjoy dreamworld so much, their innocent adorable views about the world makes them and their experiences so beautiful. Sadly, we forget that way of living completely after growing up.


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