Personal Development of Kids -Teach Them How to Be a Winner

I believe that personal development of kids is more important than anything else in the growth mindset for kidsworld because that is all about beginning a new world where people don’t have to give up their dreams and passion because of the limiting beliefs imposed upon the raw minds by the society.

Many people believe that sending kids to school is what is necessary for helping them to develop the skills that will make them successful in life, but education has nothing to do with success.

Education is necessary for making them literate, that is it. I have discussed this in the post named the habits of successful people, winners and losers are created by the type of beliefs that were planted in their minds when they were little kids.

Paradigms – How It Make Us Who We Are

Paradigms are basically the set of beliefs that confines what people can do and these paradigms are created by their past experiences.

Psychologically speaking, no one can ever do anything extraordinary unless he is willing to challenge these beliefs and take the pain to go against his own limits.

These paradigms exist in various layers i.e. family paradigms, social paradigms and even collective world paradigms.

Suppose, if anyone in a family has never owned a successful business they are going to pass this information to their children that “it is difficult to be a successful businessman”.

This is why people face so many difficulties if what they pursue is unfamiliar or against their family’s and society’s beliefs.genius for kids

Talking about the world paradigm, why do you think dreaming of climbing Mount Everest used to be an impossible stupid fantasy once upon a time?

After Edmund Hilary and Sherpa Tenzing Norgay altered this paradigm, over 4000 people have done it, it is getting easier each day.

Difficult than climbing the Mountain is to unlearn the false things that have been directly or indirectly taught to us.

People say being successful is all about learning, but my personal development journey has revealed me that it is all about unlearning.

Unlearning all the ideologies that tell us that our goals are impossible, impractical and unrealistic.

That might seem very straight and obvious, but it is much more than that because to be a winner we will have to eliminate all our deep subconscious beliefs and mind programming.

Mind Programming

Our mind is not very different from the computer that runs complicated big machines; our subconscious mind makes us who we are based on how it was conditioned when we were kids.

Children’s minds are wide open to receive suggestion and whatever gets into their system becomes their truth.

A child starts building up his conscious mind that is able to do the reasoning after a certain age, but till then whatever they learn through experiences stays in their subconscious mind and results into what they become as an adult.child genius winner

So a person may seem gifted and naturally talented at whatever they do, but this is just a result of some empowering beliefs they formed in their childhood whereas others fail due to the same reason.

The subconscious mind is a powerful thing and you will have to make use of your subconscious power if you wish to achieve any of your big goals.

For that, you will have to eliminate old beliefs present in your subconscious mind so that new positive ones can take its place. I have written a post on how to eliminate these energy blocks (inner beliefs) which you may find helpful for this purpose.

What about the next generation? Can we make this easy for them? Of course, we can, and that’s why I am so interested in the personal development of kids.

Building Winner Mindset for Kids

The process is not that difficult, any person can do this as a teacher or parent, all they have to do is – Plant seeds of success in these fresh minds.

Kids learn what you repeatedly tell them directly or indirectly, like saying “you are the creator of your life” is a powerful positive direct suggestion whereas keeping yourself in a scarcity mindset lifestyle that’s based on fear is an indirect negative suggestion you can pass on to them by being an example.

I would especially advise you to be careful when you handle money-related things in front of kids.

So, teaching them the success principles and living according to those principles are equally important.

If you will feed their minds with empowering ideas and introduce them to the knowledge that teaches them about their true potential that alone can make a huge difference.

Kids naturally know how to use visualization which is a very powerful tool for self-improvement, if you will encourage them they will learn to make proper use of it.

There are many books available for teaching such principles to kids as well as for conscious parenting.

But I believe we should teach kids about the law of attraction even if you don’t believe in the universal laws or new age concepts because bringing that type of information to their awareness makes a very strong positive impact on their inner mind.

Materials based on the law of attraction emphasizes on various tools that are helpful in altering the subconscious beliefs whereas it also makes them believe that they are the creators of their lives which in turn builds an abundance mindset.

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It doesn’t matter if you believe in metaphysical stuff or not, but any psychologist will tell you that if a person’s subconscious mind accepts something to be true, it makes it possible by altering his behavioral patterns, so just imagine how life changing it could be for kids if we tell them “everything is possible for you”.

That’s why I am suggesting to use the law of attraction based materials, one program that I recommend for this purpose is “the law of attraction for kids” where they use interesting books using which big kids can learn by themselves and parent guides for small kids, it is a very good way of telling them about their creative power.

There are some psychological factors that play a big role in all the decisions we make, the confidence we have in our own abilities and our ability to making things happen. So why should we not give kids the gift of powerful positive beliefs that will decide the type of person they will grow up to become.


Do you agree with me that our core beliefs are responsible for who we are? What are your thoughts on this subject? Please share your opinions with me by commenting below, I really want to hear your views on this. (Your email id will be safe and hidden, you can even prefer your secondary email id for commenting)

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26 thoughts on “Personal Development of Kids -Teach Them How to Be a Winner

  1. Ephraim

    Very interesting article. Kids are our future and it’s what we expose them to that makes or mar them. The seeds we sow in them at their tender age may either confine them to a small environment or make them world beaters.
    Like you rightly said, this has nothing to do with education.

    Thank you Hari

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      “The seeds we sow in them at their tender age may either confine them to a small environment or make them world beaters.”..loved it, very well said.

  2. Smart Prince

    Hey Hari,
    this is one of the best posts that I’ve read in a long time. I have to say that your post is nothing less than a gem.

    I was first exposed to the power or paradigms and paradigms shift while reading the book “7 Habits of Highly Successful People” but somehow I couldn’t get done with the book.

    Now today while searching for articles related to paradigms and mind programming, I came across yours.

    Although, the heading of the post is directed towards the nourishment of kids but this post is nothing less than helpful even for adults like me.

    I would like to say a BIG THANK YOU for writing this full of wisdom post.
    I’m sharing it in my circles.


    1. HARI

      Thank you so much for appreciating my work, so happy to know that you found it valuable, I really hope more people could see it from your perspective because I am trying to spread a message here.

      Of course it is as related to adults as much it is to kids, without a proper understanding of the inner workings of our mind, a person cannot really teach this to the younger minds because children learn more by how people act rather than what they pretend.

  3. Shirley

    I absolutely agree with this, especially the part about getting kids involved with the money side of life. I’ve seen a lot of people mess themselves up financially because they were not exposed to money. It’s like you say, if we plant things in our kids’ minds they will grow into amazing adults. Thanks for a great post.

    1. HARI S NAIR Post author

      Even I have seen a lot of such cases, Shirley, what’s even worse is that they are unaware of the fact that their own mind is working against them.

  4. Ryan Basham

    This is an interesting and very important topic. Being the father of two young children, I find it particularly interesting. You hit the nail on the head with the subconscious beliefs. That’s something I personally battle through on a daily basis. Another important trait that I believe factors heavily into kids’ future success is grit and determination. While it’s important for them to know that they can create the life they want, it’s also equally important that they know it will take work and there will be obstacles they must overcome to reach those goals.

    1. HARI

      Yes there will be obstacles, but those hindrances in the path is always resulted from what goes on in our inner world, this is probably the most important thing for us to understand about how to achieve our goals.

  5. Ronnie

    Good article. I for one know that our children are the future. And I believe in what you say about what you are taught as you are young is proportional to your behavior as an adult. This is why you do have successful and just average adults once they are all grown up.

  6. wildfind

    Good day! Great topic. Our children will be tomorrows leaders, you are right there is nothing more important then our children.
    In this time of instant gratification with technology it has become harder and harder for children to stay focused and not give up. That whatever path we choose, whatever dream, it takes time, perseverance, and an indomitable spirit. We as adults must build a strong foundation physically, and mentally first so children can develop into well balanced beings who thrive.

    1. HARI

      Absolutely, human mind learns from others and that is how we have came this far, we have accomplished a lot by learning and passing the information to the next generation.

      But it is time to pass on something important according to me and that is the knowledge about one’s own inner power.

  7. Satria

    I want to comment about the effect of paradigm. It will come from anyone at anytime. It could be your parents, your neighbours, your teachers, etc

    And it comes usually with the purpose to protect you. Because they were care about you.
    If you always take these paradigms since you were kid, then you just a product of someone else thoughts.

    So don’t stop to learn more, find the real truth.

    1. HARI

      Well Satria,

      That’s a very good point. But no one “takes” the paradigm as kids and you cannot ever shield a kid to not form beliefs because their subconscious mind is wide open to accept all types of ideas.

      This ability to make choices we have right now to say yes or no to a belief only comes to us when we have developed a conscious mind.

      We should always try to find the truth, but it does really matter from where we start, we are all products of someone else’s thoughts and that’s why I always encourage people to clear all the limiting beliefs present in their mind that were formed by their past experiences.

      However, when we talk about kids, we can lay a better foundation for them by helping them to form empowering beliefs with the help of their personal development because if we don’t, someone else will.

      In the end, what actually matters is where they stand when they have enough understanding to challenge those is always an advantage to start a few steps ahead, isn’t it?

  8. jeffrey16201

    Many children are growing up to be unhealthy adults due to their habits they form as children, parental guidance is the key to children having high self-esteem and goals as they grow and develop into adults.

    I enjoyed reading your article today, you shared some very good points and hopefully some parent who read this article will realize what they must do for their children so they grow up as healthy adults.

    1. HARI

      Good to know that you liked this post, I too hope that the message will be useful to parents who want to build a healthy mindset for their kids.

  9. Israel

    Hi Hari!

    Very inspiring article.

    Kids are the future, and it’s very important to leave behind our prejudices about the world and teach them to think in a better and healthier way than we do.

    I love how the idea of the law of attraction and a positive mindset can be of help at a young age. Your life can be so different with that approach!

    Thanks for sharing this. Very insightful and useful for the new generations.


    1. HARI

      “It’s very important to leave behind our prejudices about the world and teach
      them to think in a better and healthier way than we do”..beautifully said,
      so true. If want a better life for the new generation, we need to equip them with better mindsets than ours.

  10. Roy

    A great article and website, Hari. I was a teacher for 40 years and what you have said here I agree with 100%. School is a good place for children to learn how to become literate. There are also many other positives re having to attend school.Too many to discuss here. However, there are also the negatives and the major one as you mention is a loss of confidence. Competition can be great but it can also destroy a child’s self esteem. Unfortunately how society is built around formal education, so what can one do? Would home-schooling be a better route to take? Would that not depend on how well-off a family is? Thank you for an article which makes one think deeply.

    1. HARI

      Thank you for sharing your views on this Roy, it is so good to hear someone’s perspective on a topic like this who holds a 40-year experience in teaching.

      No, home schooling is definitely not the right solution because an education system like that will be highly constrained by the viewpoints of a few individuals.

      But at parental level lies the most important responsibility of empowering kids with positive beliefs and also I believe that we can bring a profound change in the world’s education system by improving it in a way that the main focus is about creating healthy mindsets for students.

  11. Jordan


    This is fantastic! I think you nailed it on the head with kids. They are the most vulnerable to creating habits and how they believe since they are at such a young age.

    I read a book called The Code of The Extraordinary Mind and this is exactly what they talked about. Parents make the mistake over and over by instilling false or negative beliefs in their kids without even knowing.

    Example: Asking a kid “WHY did you throw that spoon in the ground?” which corners then and forces them to think about why they did that? Doesn’t help the kid and makes them feel like they did something wrong.

    Instead, he says, ask “WHAT was the reason for throwing that spoon on the ground?” Most often the kid will be able to answer and feel less pressured. Maybe they just wanted attention from the parent at that time.
    I love this article! GREAT GREAT info you have!

    1. HARI

      I love that book, the code of extraordinary mind , it comes from Vishen Lakhiani who is the founder of Mindvalley, it is the company whose products I recommend the most here on my blog, I really love their ideas and works because they help people to make that essential inner change I have been talking in this post.

      That is a great exercise you just pointed out there, doing that helps kids to become aware of their own thoughts and actions.

      Most of the things we do in our lives is not action but a reaction which comes from layers of unnoticed beliefs we have formed since childhood because people never were interested in why we did something instead they just pointed out our mistakes, that’s what is needed to be changed if we humans are willing to evolve any further from here.

      Thank you so much for sharing your views, I am so happy to get a comment from a like minded person who really gets what I am trying to say here, Jordan.

  12. Marcie

    What fab information! I am all for personal development for children. Many kids suffer from self-esteem problems and the pressure on them from the modern world is immense. Do you agree with me that the media causes a lot of this? I would like my kids to grow up happy and confident.
    I will certainly be applying some of your recommendations with my family!

    1. HARI

      Yeah Marcie,

      Media plays a big role in boosting up the negative, victimhood beliefs not only in kids but adults also. So happy to hear that you are aware of that and also the importance of the personal development of children.

      I really hope the content of this website will be useful to you 🙂

  13. Juan

    I could not agree more about your ideas on paradigms and their importance on development. I remember reading a book called Outliers, by Malcom Gladwell, and on of the core ideas was that the people that grew up to become Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and other successful entrepreneurs basically had a childhood that boosted them into such success. They had already been brought up in the “being a successful entrepreneur isn’t impossible” mindset.

    Great article, thank you for sharing

    1. HARI

      Absolutely, I see people telling their kids and also saying the same thing to others about why one should aim for a job rather than being an entrepreneur, I have faced heavy criticism and struggle for my own work until I succeeded with my online business.

      For some people, it is not that difficult to be successful in business but for some, it is. And it all boils down to their subconscious beliefs, the social and family paradigm.

      That’s why I believe that this message is important for anyone wanting to raise successful kids. Thanks for appreciating my work and also for sharing your views, Juan 🙂


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